Presence not performance…
What makes senior sex so satisfying is the pressure to perform is off. It’s not about racing toward orgasm as much as it’s about being present with your partner. Being fully tuned into your lover and together exploring what turns each other on is really sexy.
Great sex at any age is about being present in the moment with another person. There is nothing more delicious than having the attention of someone you love focused on you, especially in bed. Mature sex is more about giving and receiving pleasure than it is about reaching orgasm.
Senior sex very orgasmic
Which is not to say senior sex is not orgasmic. It absolutely is orgasmic, and playful as well. When attention is paid to their erotic needs, women in their 50s, 60s, and 70s have no difficulty reaching orgasm, some for the first time in their lives. There is no age limit on desire or having orgasms.
With the focus off performance, men are released from what I call the “tyranny of the erection,” and they often become better lovers. Finally, after years of everyone being focused on the climax, attention shifts from the cock to the person, allowing lovers to experience the profound intimacy good sex brings.
The Secret: Stay present and tuned in
The problem with sex being performance driven (hard enough, big enough, orgasm, no orgasm) is that it gets boring. Nothing against penis/vagina sex, but after 40+ years of it, we know the routine. I mean, if it’s orgasms you want, you can always pleasure yourself. But to make love and feel deeply connected (and to have mind-blowing orgasms, as well), you’ll want your partner to adore you and be present and tuned into your needs, just as you will be present and tuned into his or her needs. Intimate relationships rule in mature sex.
The irony of being present
Senior sex is great, because it’s about making love instead of reaching orgasm. The irony, which is not lost on sexy seniors, is that the potential to be orgasmic and sexually satisfied is far easier to achieve when everyone stops trying so hard and the awareness shifts to being present with your partner.
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