Bring back that lovin’ feelin’…
It’s a shame that the physical intimacy and loving sex we need to stay healthy as we age is in such short supply when it’s so readily available to all of us.
I’m referring to touch and sexual intimacy, innate behaviors that are hard-wired into us humans. These are not just for the lucky few—the young, the healthy, and the beautiful. These are life-sustaining behaviors given to each one of us at birth. It is our birthright to touch and be touched, to love and be loved, and they are just as essential for our survival when we are older as when we were young.
Yet the reality is that older folks are touched less than at any other time in their lives. As time passes, people retire, partners die, and children move away. In our touch-phobic society where touch is limited only to close family members, elders become increasingly isolated and deprived of the physical intimacy they need.
It may be that seniors need more loving touch and sexual intimacy to stay healthy as they age. This is not just my opinion—this is science talking. Research is pointing to the fact that the more physically intimate and sexually active we are as we age, the healthier we will be. For men in particular, having orgasms 3+ times per week has been shown to cut the rate of heart attack and stroke by 50%.
Loving sex can provide the antidote for many health challenges endemic to old age. For example, it is now known that loving sex:
- lowers blood pressure,
- reduces depression, especially in women,
- strengthens the immune system to fight colds and flu,
- eliminates loneliness, slowing rate of physical decline,
- improves sleep,
- increases happiness and overall well-being.
A prescription for loving sex
For these reasons, I believe we should add touch and loving sex to the list of healthy lifestyle choices for seniors. For example, wise seniors would include the following in their health regime: weight training, aerobic exercise, supplements, active social life, stress management, blueberries, salmon, avocados, loving sex, and healing touch.
I’m not joking. Give it a year or two and you’ll see scientific articles supporting this wisdom. I believe we will eventually come to understand that love and intimacy are the underlying determinants of physical and emotional health at all ages. . . and that they are major factors contributing to our good health and longevity as we age.
No age limit on loving sex
Nothing physical stands in the way of us enjoying touch and loving sex well into our 90s. There is no age limit on the need to be touched, sexual desire, or even the ability to orgasm. What robs us of these sensual pleasures is our own limiting beliefs. We seniors can improve our overall health as well as extend our life span by opting for sensual touch and sexual intimacy as proactive lifestyle choices, easily making them a priority when they are ‘only a heartbeat away.’
Thanks for reading!